Being a caregiver is a change that can be difficult for both you and your loved one, that can become even more challenging while working with Alzheimer’s disease and dementia.

Jacqueline Marcell, author of “Elder Rage,” offers tips on how to survive caring for aging parents during this time.

Caring for Aging Parents with Alzheimer’s

For eleven years I pleaded with my ‘challenging’ elderly father to allow a caregiver to help him with my ailing mother, but he always insisted on taking care of her himself. Every caregiver I hired soon sighed in exasperation:

“Jacqueline, I just can’t work with your father. His temper is impossible to handle and he’s not going to accept help until he’s on his knees himself.”

When my father’s inability to continue to care for my mother nearly resulted in her death, I stepped in despite his loud protests. It was so heart-wrenching, as one minute he’d be my loving father and then some trivial little thing would set him off and he’d call me horrible names and throw me out of the house. I took him to several doctors and even a psychiatrist, only to be flabbergasted that he could act completely normal when he needed to.

Finally I stumbled upon a thorough neurologist, specialized in dementia, who put my parents through a battery of blood, neurological, memory tests and P.E.T. scans. After ruling out numerous reversible forms of dementia, such as B-12 and thyroid deficiency, and evaluating their medications, he shocked me with the diagnosis of Stage One Alzheimer’s in both of my parents – something all their other doctors missed.

How to Survive Caring for Aging Parents

What I’d been coping with was the beginning signs of Alzheimer’s, which begins very intermittently and appears to come and go. I didn’t understand that my father was addicted and trapped in his own bad behavior of a lifetime of screaming and yelling to get his way, which was coming out intermittently in spurts of over-the-top irrationality. I also didn’t understand that ‘demented’ does not mean ‘dumb’ (a concept not widely appreciated), and that he was still socially adjusted never to show his ‘Mr. Hyde’ side to anyone outside the family. Conversely, my mother was as sweet and lovely as she’d always been.

Alzheimer’s makes up 60-80% of all dementias and there’s no stopping the progression nor is there yet a cure. However, if identified early there are four FDA approved medications (many more in clinical trials) that in most patients can mask dementia symptoms and keep patients in the early independent stage longer.

Once my parents were treated for the Alzheimer’s, as well as the often-present depression in dementia patients, and then my father’s aggression, I was able to optimize fluid and nutrition with much less resistance. I was also able to manage the rollercoaster of challenging behaviors. Instead of logic and reason, I learned to use distraction and redirection. I capitalized on their long-term memories and instead of arguing the facts, it was best to live in their realities of the moment. I also learned to just go-with-the-flow and let hurtful comments roll off and change the subject.

Most importantly, I was able to get my father to accept two wonderful live-in caregivers. Then with the tremendous benefit of care five days a week for my parents and a support group for me, everything started to fall into place.

Alzheimer’s disease afflicts more than 5.4 million Americans, but many go undiagnosed for years because early warning signs are chalked up to stress and a ‘normal’ part of aging. Since 1 in 6 women and 1 in 11 men are afflicted by age 65, and nearly half by age 85, healthcare professionals of every specialty should know the 10 Warning Signs of Alzheimer’s and educate their patients so everyone can save time, money – and a fortune in Kleenex!

About the Author

Jacqueline Marcell is the author of “Elder Rage,” a Book-of-the-Month Club selection receiving over 500 5-Star Amazon reviews and endorsements. She is an international speaker on Alzheimer’s, as well as cancer which she survived after caring for her parents.

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While the effectiveness of brain fitness games is heavily debated among researchers, one neuroscientist may have invented a video game with real staying power and results.

His game, on its journey through FDA approval, uses multitasking to improve overall brain function and he hopes that, pending FDA approval, the game could be used to help people suffering from Alzheimer’s disease, PTSD, traumatic brain injuries and ADHD.

Learn more about the brain fitness industry and what sets this game apart from the others.

Video Games for Brain Health: A Billion Dollar Industry

Brain fitness games that promise to prolong memory, boost brain health and prevent cognitive decline are everywhere. In fact, the estimated market for these games is close to $1 billion and experts believe the industry will grow to $6 billion over the next five years. With stores and marketers promising consumers that these games will make them smarter, raise IQ and forget less, it’s no surprise that brain fitness games are a thriving industry.

However, some experts are more than skeptical about the results of these games.

Psychology professor at the Georgia Institute of Technology Randall Engle has been outspoken about his skepticism saying, “We’re really talking about a biological system. The idea that you can do some little computer game for half an hour a day for 10 days and change that system is ludicrous on the face of it.” He went on to say, “There’s very little research that’s don’t right that suggests that these thing work.”

Engle has completed numerous studies putting brain fitness game to the test and has not seen any “substantial benefit” to the games. In fact, Engle was one of 75 scientists who signed a letter to the brain fitness game industry stating that marketers are inventing claims and even targeting elderly customers worried about memory loss.

New Brain Health Game Takes a Different Approach

Neuroscientist Adam Gazzaley, who in fact signed the same letter as Engle, believes that he may have invented a game that addresses both the business and science aspects of brain fitness games.

His game is in the process of getting approval from the Food and Drug Administration, which will take several years and even more money. However, if approved, the game could be used to help people suffering from Alzheimer’s disease, PTSD, traumatic brain injury and ADHD.

The game is fully immersive and focuses on multitasking. For example, the player would need to guide a horse through the desert while tapping only green carrots flashing at the top of the screen, but not the radishes or carrots of another color. Gazelle says that “if we created this, what we call a high-interference environment, with multitasking going on and lots of distraction… if we put pressure in that environment, we would see benefits in other aspects of cognitive control.”

He believes that by improving one area of cognition, all areas of cognition may be improved. He also hopes that one day the game can be analyzed by doctors to tailor the treatment of the player after seeing how the player responds to the game in varied environments.

Admitting that his game and his theory needs to undergo extensive testing, Gazzaley is cautiously optimistic saying:

”Can we go then through a very rigorous validation clinical trial, just like people would expect from a drug, to then show how it works, how it doesn’t work, how it could work better… all those things?”

What do you think about a game like this to improve cognition? Have you seen positive effects from brain fitness games? Is this game different? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.

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